When I was a little girl, my dad gave me a nickname. And while some young girls might have found it embarrassing, I owned it: I was Carie the Crusher.Dad borrowed the name from one of his favorite Bugs Bunny characters, a professional wrestler whose physical strength made him the champion. (Of course Bugs uses his wiley ways to defeat him, but The Crusher’s physical strength is never denied.)
Here’s why this is funny: I was a wimp! I was tiny: My grandma still talks about how my skinny legs didn’t fill out a pair of tights. My best friend’s mom wouldn’t fix me a whole hamburger for lunch because someone so small surely couldn’t eat that much. Mom ordered my clothes from the Sear’s catalog because they offered “slim” jeans and pants.
In the face of these truths, I never once doubted my own physical strength. Because I was – in Dad’s mind and in my own – Carie the Crusher.
I grew up thinking I could beat up the boys. In some cases, I did. My little brother grew 7 inches taller than me and works a physically demanding job every day, but I’m still not afraid to arm wrestle him. Even when I get beat, I still think I’m tough. I imagine now that these delusions about my physical strength translated into a mental toughness fueled entirely by stubbornness and egged on by Dad’s running commentary.
Until this very moment, I didn’t consider the fact that my toughness may be a result of this nickname that Dad teased me with. Maybe it was never his intention, or maybe he it was deliberate—like Jonny Cash’s song about A Boy Named Sue. (Either way, thank you, Dad, for making your WimpyWimpyWimpy daughter feel so strong!)
Walk with Me to Support Lupus Colorado
When my health got wonky in 2011, for the first time in my life, I felt weak. I went from boot camp to bed bound and it sucked. I contacted Lupus Colorado, and they gave me an opportunity to share my story and work through my issues in the form of this blog. For this, I’m eternally grateful. Chronic illness is so much more than what’s physically happening to your body: It requires the summoning of strengths you aren’t aware of until you get thrown into the ring.
Lupus Colorado is the only organization in Colorado helping people stay tough while navigating the realities of living with lupus. Please, join us on Saturday, Sept. 10 in Berkeley Lake Park, for the 2016 Lupus Colorado Community Walk.
You can even join my team, Carie’s Crushers! (I’m literally the only person on my team at the moment. I’m tough, but showing up as a one-woman team would be kind of embarrassing.)
Let’s crush this!